Death is awful. While I know our soul moves on and our loved ones remain with us, it does not take away the pain when we lose someone.
One of my best friends passed away on Monday. Her son and my son are friends and have been for the past five years or so. They became friends because her son was outside playing basketball at my next door neighbor’s basketball hoop all alone so I had my son go out and play with him. Her son RJ had offered to start my lawn mower for me because I was having a hard time. That is how it began.
About a week later I went over to her house that was two houses down across the street to meet her. I am very much into parents knowing each other. I just said “Hi, I’m Jennifer, David’s mom and I live just over there,” as I pointed. “I just wanted to introduce myself since our kids are playing a lot together.” Poor Robin look surprised and shocked that someone showed up and knocked on her door. I’m not the shy quiet type. She is, until you get to know her. She, in the beginning thought I was a little odd at the time (she eventually told me this once we had a solid friendship lol) but she and I became great friends. We always laughed about that.
Robin was the most loving and generous person I know. She helped me look for jobs numerous times. She’s given me clothes, I’ve given her jewelry that I’ve made or bought to resell. The very last time was when she was leaving an office job and she sent me there to apply. She and the boss were to do the training. Due to who the boss was, unfortunately that did not end well for either of us.
This weekend my son and I were planning on going over to visit her if she and RJ were home. I finally finished school and have free time to visit with friends and we had tentatively talked about getting together when my son was not at his father’s for his weekend visit. I should have visited her even while in school. I let it rule my whole schedule. 😦
Now we are to see her for the last time at her funeral this next week. She died too young, 34. She’s younger than I am. I am sad, heartbroken, not only for losing a wonderful friend; but for her family, husband, children and everyone who loves her.
Life is short. You never know when your last day will be. I learned a hard lesson here: visit those you truly love no matter how busy you are. Talking online and texting is not enough. Enjoy the company of your friends and family because if you don’t, their day will come and you will feel how I feel right now.
RIP Robin Gutierrez-Jones. I will always love you. ❤
Because I have been stuck on Welfare for four years, off and on, due to not successfully obtaining full time work and attending school to obtain my degrees, I found out that every three years Welfare needs to update the information. I’m so glad I know how to do this. I am so thankful that finally my ex and I can work together to do this as a team. He knows how hard I’ve been looking for work. He does not judge me. I have to say, we do have a friendship relationship that most exes do not have. As of today, I’ve sent out close to forty-fifty resumes and cannot do more until I take a typing test next Friday at my first college for the County jobs.
So my afternoon will be spent making sure our papers match exactly. He has had a lot more visitation this year and it has not been a problem at all. After all our son is 13 and needs his father to teach him to be a man, even though he has a step-father. His bio father has overcome his addiction, as he’s been clean for over seven years, has done his anger management long ago, and completed what was expected of him and exceeded it as well. We are able to talk without arguing. We are a TEAM as co-parents.
This leads me into the area of co-parenting. While our marriage was not necessarily peaches and cream and included lots of abuse, he, nor I are the same people anymore. As co-parents we have each others back so our child cannot play both ends against the middle. If we need to discuss something we will. I’m not saying we never argue, but when it gets to that point, though rarely, we take a break, calm down and talk when BOTH of us are calm and come to the proper conclusion.
I do believe that under most circumstances (unless the husband actually did attempt murder and he would do it again if given the chance) if we can do it, so can everybody else. I think many adults need to simply grow up and stop being selfish and using their children as pawns. Our son is happy and well adjusted. He has a good father and a good mother who love him with all of our hearts even though we make mistakes. We have taught him that nobody is perfect and apologize just as we have taught him to do so when he’s done something to hurt another. Our son is quite mature for his age and we could never ask for a better child.
So until next time, and after the child support papers; have a wonderful Sunday!
As a new blogger who has written in a notebook type journal all my life, I am coming into the world of blogging technology. I admit, it is daunting at first glance and never taken this seriously before. I am getting older. I have Arthritis in my knees and my fingers; so it’s much easier and faster for me to type. Plus I am looking for a way to make some extra cash while looking for work.
I am a college graduate FINALLY! At 37, I never thought I could obtain my goals. However, I realize I am slowly getting there. I want to help people in whatever way I can. My Bachelor’s is in Criminal Justice and although I’m not quite sure which area to go into in the very beginning, my ultimate goal is a Master’s in some kind of Psychology to become a Criminal Psychologist. In the meantime I am looking for work in any sort of desk work because that was my main type of work before my 30s.
I absolutely love to write. I’ve been writing since I was a child and want to have my work published someday. So for now, as my start, I will begin blogging and wait to see what happens. I know everyone who is a pro here, has been in my position. So please be kind to this Newbie. 🙂